One of the key areas this understanding affects is in the area of our relationships. Beginning with the relationship with ourselves. This past week I taught the first three days of a six-day course on becoming a financial coach. Most of the folks in the room were new to the arena of coaching and have a working knowledge only of finances. Their first practice session debrief included a lot of the following: “ I am not a good listener”…”Not sure I can do this” …..” I am more of a case manager than I am a coach”.. Hopefully readers you are tracking with Wow – you guys are really hard on yourselves and this is the FIRST PRACTISE SESSION!!!!
Knowing that self-criticism is not reality – it is THOUGHT – can assist all of us in being kinder to ourselves. Noticing that as our mood elevates and we are in a better state of mind, we say instead “Well it is a learning process” and “ I am just starting” ….you get the drift.
As we apply this to other relationships, we notice that people are not a certain way – they are what we think they are. When we relax we will notice that our innate tendency is towards kindness and understanding – the only thing that keeps us from that is our train of thought. This week – be kind in your thoughts to yourself and feel what that is like!
