Nothing Is Ever Personal
In last week’s post we discussed the number one block to our realizing the truth of who we are…of knowing that our true nature is love itself. It’s the difference between pursuing love and relaxing into the fact that we are already love.
This week’s post is the number two block to the certainty and joy that knowing ourselves as love can bring. I have to admit it has been my Achilles Heel for as long as I can remember. It glares at the obvious places in my life and lurks in the corners I would never suspect.
I mentioned that last week included at least 2 sucker punches to my well made plans. As I looked deeply into the upset, of course, I saw that I had taken both personally…that it must have something to do with me and the way I am.
Nothing could be further from the truth for anyone – and true to my title this week – NOTHING and I do mean NOTHING is ever personal. When you think about all the complex working parts of any situation you begin to notice that there is not one cause or one effect – that all events begin with the infinite number of possibilities and people respond based on an infinite number of causes in their own life.
AS an example, imagine that your spouse, partner or good friend says something to you in a harsh tone and accuses you of something you did not do -you take that personally and start defending and justifying-increasing the upset in both parties. OR – you realize it isn’t personal – that it could be everything from a bad day to something else happened that latched on to their perception and your conversation. A deeper cut would have you know that it is impossible to be personal – that all the thinking in your spouse or other comes from all the events of their day and their life. When you sit down to reflect you see that thinking comes “from” the other – not from anything you did “to” the other. If you have ever tried to change someone’s mind about anything, you can prove this out in minutes. No matter what you say or how well you say it, it has no effect.
Over the next several days – take a look at the ups and downs of your day – notice what you attribute them to- and begin to breathe in the possibility that NOTHING is ever personal – nothing is about you – and welcome freedom!.
If you have residual feelings over the events – stay tuned – next week begins our exploration of the Sedona Method and its power to show us that feelings have no power we don’t give them and letting them go is as easy as breathing.
Have fun with this exploration!
