The Art of Thoughtfulness-
My mother could have written the book on manners – It seemed the lessons from “ please and thank you” to writing notes of appreciation were what I spent many an hour doing, with her standing behind me to make sure I did it…she taught me how to notice what people liked so when an occasion came around I knew just what to get. My perfect job would have been a customizing personalized shopper, where I knew the exact right gift to give..after all those hours -I realized I enjoyed it – I loved the look on people’s faces when they received an unexpected note, card or gift.
Years later I realized it was a way to be thoughtful – a way to get out of yourself and think of others – to pay close attention to people and to notice what provoked interest and joy. It has been a lifelong occupation that feels at times like a special mission that I need to fulfill.
My dad passed away many years ago now, but I still have all the cards given me by Hallmark employees who had heard me tell Dad stories in class. Each and every one contained a personalized message of care and once again I could see how beneficial celebrations of thoughtfulness are for a challenging and painful time. Yes, they were in the card business but their sentiments were all their own.
It is so true that you never know what someone else is experiencing. You can be standing in line at the bank next to someone who had just received a startling diagnosis- or passing someone in the post office who has experienced sadness. We can move too fast past someone who needs a kind word or help opening a door. The smallest kindness is the art of thoughtfulness. Yes it could also be a grand gesture but it isn’t the heart of it- the heart of it is to pay attention – to notice – and to take action.
I am one of those people this week – having lost the love of my life after 33 years has left me trying to smile at people in crowds, somewhat unsuccessfully or holding back tears at the grocery store.
If you see me, practice the art – give someone a compliment in my honor– share the beauty of Spring weather – break into a loving smile.
You have no idea what it means and we live in a time, where thoughtfulness is done less and less.
Lets bring it back – I so appreciate it and you!
